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Many people commit their lives to being who they think it is other people would have them to be. Is this an authentic way of living life?
I’m not here to judge them, my judgement wouldn’t help, and I don’t know them; I don’t know you.
Let’s play a little game, shall we? When someone ask you who you are, what do you tell them? Do you say, “Hi, I’m George, I’m the CEO of a successful tech company, I’m super ambitious and married with two kids”? Or do you say, “Hi, I’m George, I’m creative, intelligent, loving and caring”?
Do you describe who you are in relation to what you do and how you do it; or do you simply describe yourself in terms of your core values and authentic self?
It took me 36 years to realize that I AM the expert of my life. I am the authentic me. NO ONE ELSE knows me better than myself, because I spend every second of my life with me, right?
Would it be fair to say that most people live their life in accordance with who they believe they are?
I’m not going to fool you here but I’m curious and I spent years thinking that what I did was who I was. It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that people are going to respect you more because you’ve achieved this or that. The jobs you’ve had, the prizes you won, the relationships you had aren’t representative of who you truly are. All of these are just a testimony of how you do things. People won’t love you because you won a Nobel Prize. They will love you because you are unique. They will love you because you are funny. They will love you because you are creative, loving and original …
So, there you go, here is my question to you. Be honest, use your heart, not your mind. Give no reference to anything that you do or have done in the past.
That’s right, give no reference of how it is that you feel right now. Give no reference to your relationship status.
Give no reference to your sexual preferences. Give no reference to any of your great successes, failures or accomplishments in life. Give no reference to anything that you intend to do in the future.
So, I’m curious; who are you?
Next time you meet someone new, think about what you’ve just done. People aren’t who they say they are, or are they? I think, they are much bigger than that. We’re all born with a positive core identity and sometimes it gets lost in translation.
Dr. Seuss said it so well, “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”
Until next time… Look after your awesome self!